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The lesser of 2 evils?

Last post 05-30-2008, 10:37 AM by katja527. 1 replies.
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  •  05-08-2008, 10:31 PM 42066

    The lesser of 2 evils?

    Right, well my husband is in AIT to be a 33Whiskey, now called a 35Tango.  He's graduating in early August, and just recieved orders for Korea.  And I can't go.  Apparently less than 10% of married soldiers get to take their families, and they're all higher-ups.  Before my husband and I agreed that if he got stationed somewhere where we didn't want to go, then he'd put in his packet for Airbourne and then we could go to Ft. Bragg in NC. 

    If he goes to Korea, then that means I only have 3 months left with him.  And then we have a year apart.  But in Korea, he's not getting shot at, he's in much less danger.  I could live with my parents and save up a lot of money while he's gone, and when he gets stationed somwhere in the US, we could use that as a downpayment on a house.  And my job will transfer up to my parent's area, so I won't have to job hunt.

    But if he goes Airbourne, who knows how much time we'd have after his training?  We could get rent a house in NC, and I've been told that his deplyments to Iraq etc woudl only be for 3 to 6 months at a time.  And my brother is putting in his airbourne packet, so I'd be there with my sister-in-law and would have a support system.  But then he's in danger.

    There is so much more I could rant about, pros and cons, but I wanted some military opinions.  Which is the lesser of two evils here?  Him leaving me much sooner than we expected and me living with my parents or living alone;  or living in NC in a house, job hunting, and then having him leave for a smaller time but in more danger?

  •  05-30-2008, 10:37 AM 42768 in reply to 42066

    Re: The lesser of 2 evils?

    In my opinion the lesser of 2 evils is being apart for a year, but having your husband not in combat. Yes, Separations are hard but deployments are harder on both of you. Use the separation to improve your relationship and communication so that you can improve your marriage. It's much easier to do this when he's not at war. I'm at the end of my husband's 15-month deployment and I'd much rather him to go Korea than back to Iraq.

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